For a few years of my life I dealt with debilitating anxiety. It got really bad. At one point, I was not even able to leave the house because I feared having anxiety attacks out in public or even worse, while I was driving with my kids, who were really young at the time. So I just stayed home, all of the time. After doing that for a few months, I decided that I needed to find a solution to my problem. But I wasn’t looking for a prescription for anything. For some, medication is the solution. Despite my family really pushing me to take medication, I made the decision that would not be the way I was going to solve this problem. I wanted to find a holistic approach to the awful anxiety that I was experiencing.
My intuition was telling me that finding the root of my anxiety was going to serve as a guiding lesson in my life.
The first thing that I set out to do was create moments of relief from the anxiety. I found that in meditation, journaling, cardio exercise and drinking tea. That was the beginning of a what would be my journey of healing myself. From there I set out to learn about the physical origins of anxiety. That lead me to learn about our nervous system. I then found myself curious about the emotional origins of anxiety. What I learned was that anxiety stems from NOT being ok with the uncertainty that comes from our day to day life. Just like most depression comes from people not being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel so to speak, anxiety is driven by not being able to control of the future. Not being able to control the future puts us in a place of fearing it.
That realization was epic!
Yes, I was a control freak. I needed to know everything before it happened. And not being able to see things before they happened caused me to experience debilitating amounts of anxiety and fear about the future. Uncertainty caused me to become overwhelmed and to constantly ask “how”. How will I do this, how will I make this happen, how, how how.
I had to teach myself to replace the need for control with faith and courage. To this day, faith and courage are my top two values. The faith to believe in my desires and the courage to continuously take the next step even though I couldn’t see what was ahead.
Becoming someone who helps others transform their lives requires being ok with uncertainty. As leaders of change, we are called to release the need for control and simply allow ourselves to be guided by the desire of leading transformation. Releasing control along with discovering how to be comfortable in the space of uncertainty allows us to experience more beauty in our lives and businesses.
Putting our focus on our desires and the feelings that come from them allows for the right steps to be revealed at the right time. No struggle, no fear, no need to control. Just intention and desire. Can you sense the difference in the energy?
Is the voice of uncertainty taking over? Does the fear of not knowing exactly how things will unfold, stop you from powerfully moving forward?
If so, I invite you to pull out your journal, grab your favorite beverage and take a few minutes out of your day to work through the following prompts:
- What would it feel like to not worry at all about how you’ll bring your desire of leading transformation into being?
- How does it feel to be in the space of your desires with the certainty that things will unfold as they should?
- Who do you need to be in order to allow your desires to manifest with the purest form of ease and grace?
And so it is!
Love & Light,