For a long time, I believed that if I surrendered to hope, it meant that I had no control over the outcomes in my life. I regarded hope as a magical power outside of myself that was in charge of my life-if I let it.
That meant that if I put hope in charge, some of my intentions would take their physical form and some wouldn’t. I associated hope with uncertainty.
It felt more like a wish. And wishes by definition are things that we want that probably will not happen.
I also believed that the path to my desires was singular. Meaning that my desires had only one pathway to fruition. If the path that I carved out didn’t work, then my goals were doomed. And of course, I created lot’s of evidence to prove that hope was trivial, and rarely on my side. I pretty much became a hopeless person.
Can you see the problem with that thought process? It’s a clear example of how my mindset was fixed. My belief about hope kept me in the space of being the victim. If you’ve been in my world for a bit, you know that I once was the reigning queen of victim-hood. I gladly gave up that crown! But all jokes aside, re-learning my view of hope was extremely transformational.
What is hope then?
According to the late Charles Richard “Rick” Snyder, positive psychologist and author of, “Psychology of Hope: You Can Get Here from There”, hope is the belief that you can drive your goals. He also goes on to say that hope has a positive correlation with:
- perceived problem-solving abilities
- perception of control
- positive affect and
- expecting positive outcomes
When it came to the power of hope, I was way off. Hope is not a magical power. It’s not uncertain either. Not by a long shot. Instead, hope is the motivating force for change. In order to create transformation, we need to hold the belief that change is possible. And that requires a growth mindset around the topic that we are desiring to unfold into its next level. When we don’t believe that change is possible, then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Meaning we create evidence to support that what we hoped for is not going to happen. No wonder I had become hopeless. My theory of hope was based on several misconceptions.
Shifting my view of hope also taught me that being hopeful:
- activates purpose.
- requires a clear vision of what we want.
- is driven by intentions.
- may require more than one pathway into being.
- thrives on resilience.
How do you relate to hope? Like me, did you believe that hope was more like wishing for something and yet not knowing whether or not your desires would manifest? Hope is not a magical crystal ball. However, hope activates our desires and helps us create pathways that support the physical form of our intentions.